How to Build her Trust in the Dating Game:
Tips for Men to Pickup Women
The Secret Box
This is a concept that is not directly related to seducing but more about social life in general.
Everybody has a secret box. This is an abstract box where every individual puts his secrets in.
They write them on a paper and then carefully put them in a box.
A few facts about the secret box:
- Beyond everybody has one, all the secrets in it are classified as “Top Secret.”
A secret that has the potential to bring you down either socially or emotionally.
Here’s an example of a secret box in someones every day life:
Three girls go to a party and do some stuff that they put in their box.
A week later, their rival walks up to one of them and says: “I heard what you did at that party.”
Well here’s the problem. This girl has put SO many things in her secret box that she has no idea which one they are referring too.
She will say: “NO! It’s not true what you heard! Let me tell you what really happened!”
She will then tell her ‘secret’. Her rival was actually making a joke but remained quiet all the way to listen to her secret. She can now use this against her because it’s classified as Top Secret.
Filter the real stuff out from the b.s. secrets.
The main problem here is that this girl puts so many things away in her secret box (who looked at her, who she danced with, who’s number she has taken etc.) that it is bound to break at some point and open to reveal plenty of here lies.
So what I am suggesting is that you shouldn’t put every little thing in your secret box. Actually, more then three items at a time is a lot already.
Remember that whatever you put away for safe keeping, is classified Top Secret by you and has the potential to screw with your internal wranglings. Some people will even try to screw up that perfectly manicured life if these weapons of mass destruction were to get in the wrong hands.
Also take note that people can only use information like this against you if you seem to care about it?
It is best to act indifferent in the face of this adversity, perserve your confidence coolly at all times. If you treat most of these cases as nothing, people won’t even try to use them against you.
Imagine I’m an insane mack daddy and then I get caught doing something embarassingly childish like a five year old.
If my rival notices that I have classified this as Top Secret and a weapon of mass destruction they will try to use it against me.
They will pounce for example at the worst moment when others are around etc.
However, if you act nonchalant about the whole thing by saying: “Yeah so? I love being a kid at heart it excercises my need for inner connection.” They would never again try to turn something on me and use it against me. Even if they would, it wouldn't have the effect they desired (lowering my social status), so all weapons would be disarmed or worse off pointed at the egg on their face.
This concept of calm in the face of a storm will help maintain your social status at the most perilous times.
Also don’t get in the habit of filing items in your secret box that are trivial and make sure you have very few Top Secrets so that the skeletons don't fall out in the middle of the most important romance of your life.
Now taking this concept here’s how it would apply to seduction, especially in the WOW System (Paragon Project's The New Breed).
The main use of the secret box can be applied to trust building. But here’s a more detailed explanation of this Stage 6- Trust I (Initiation), to get you one step closer to your goal.
The main purpose during this trust building stage is to get the girl to tell you some of her secrets from that box of hers. If this objective is fulfilled, then you’ll be creating massive amounts of rapport and comfort between you two.
Now the problem would be how to get her to share some of her secrets.
Of course,we will share the solutionwith you as well.
What you do is to share something minor with her, this gives her the impression that you’re actually sharing some of your secrets with her. Therefore she’ll be thinking “wow, he’s sharing some private stuff with me, so I feel like I can trust him a little more.”
Well this trust will end up in her spilling her secrets out in front of you about things she never speaks about. So by telling her your minor secrets, this still leaves you protected, and you opened her up in the process.
The minor info that you tell her could be things that aren’t really considered to you as secret or important. It could also be some stories or embarassing moments, that you wouldn’t mind telling anyone.
So in essence you may be sharing info, but as for the secrets you're really not.
However, be cognizant that the majority of women have been socially conditioned to lie when it suits them to protect their honour. So this could be considered to give them a minor dose of their own medicine.
Another way you can use the secret box, is a form of reference points. The way to use this is before you start the seduction phase you want to lay down some pre-emptive LMR (Last Minute Resistance) tactics to use when you’re into the seduction phase, in order to have sex with her.
So you would say something like “You know I don’t tell many people this, but I hate when things get rushed.” This is a reference point, which is a statement you can refer to, when she puts up LMR.
Using the example made earlier about this type of reference point would be helpful. So when you a she pulls up her LMR you can say, “Hey I said earlier that I don’t like things rushed, relax take things easy." Turning the Tables on her with the Opposite will have a powerful disarming affect that you can use to finish.
Since you set it up earlier, it seems like you’re the one making the suggestion, which is the intent that you want.
It also makes her feel like you have control of youself as well, which will distinguish you from the pack.
Remember that your fear is normality.
Voodoo/Vicious
Paragon Project
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